How to Have More Authentic Feminine Energy

It’s easy to fake femininity and levelling up.

You can create a soft aesthetic. Silk robe. A pretty feed with a morning matcha and a candle you lit for the camera, not your nervous system.

But real feminine energy? You can’t cheat your way into it.

It can’t be bought.
It can’t be borrowed.
And it definitely can’t be faked.

Real femininity is felt, not just performed.
You walk differently. You rest differently. You even attract differently.

So if you’ve been performing femininity, a.k.a doing all the “right” things, but still feeling disconnected, this is your antidote.

No fluff. No aesthetic checklists.

Just embodiment.

The Difference Between Real Feminine Energy and Fake Femininity

1. Stop doing it for the 'gram. Do it for your nervous system.

Perfume, journaling, skincare, Chanel handbags... these aren’t props for your highlight reel. They’re signals to your body that you’re safe now. That you’re cared for. That you can soften.

If your femininity only shows up when someone is watching... it’s performance.

Start asking: “Would I still do this if no one ever saw it?”
If the answer is no, strip it back. Simplify. Make it real.

Femininity isn’t the candle.
It’s the fact you let it burn long after the post went up.

2. Start leading with your energy, not your appearance

You’ve mastered the soft voice. The gentle smile. The “right” look.

But here’s the plot twist: people feel you before they see you.

If your aura is giving anxious, chaotic and restless... the buss down 24-inch russian wig won’t hide it.

Try this instead:

• Pause before you enter a room. Breathe. Centre yourself.

• Soften your shoulders. Release the tension in your jaw.

• Move like you have nowhere to be but know exactly where you are going.

Femininity is about presence, not performance.
So stop announcing yourself and start arriving.

3. Make softness a strategy, not a costume

Some of you are wearing femininity like it’s a safety blanket.
Pretty. Polished. Passive.

But real softness doesn’t mean you shrink. It means you choose grace without giving up your power.

That means:

• Taking rest before burnout hits

• Saying no without needing to explain

• Letting yourself receive without guilt

Softness is not the absence of strength.
It’s the proof that you don’t need to force anything to own the room.

4. Replace consumption with commitment

You’ve read the books.
Watched the videos.
Saved the quotes.

But the shift you're looking for won’t come from more knowledge. It comes from practice.

Pick one ritual a day to show up for your feminine energy:

• 10-minute slow morning

• A bath you don’t rush

• Saying yes to help instead of pretending you’ve got it

Femininity isn’t a syllabus. It’s a rhythm.
Choose one note. Play it daily. Let it become who you are.

5. Set boundaries that match your softness

If you’re still letting chaos or low vibrational energy slide just to “be nice”... that’s not femininity. That’s self-abandonment.

Here’s what real feminine boundaries look like:

• Saying “I’m not available for that energy” with a smile

• Walking away when you’re disrespected (without a dramatic exit speech)

• Making your peace non-negotiable

Your softness doesn’t mean you’re easy to access.
It means you choose who gets to feel it, and why.

6. Move like someone who doesn’t need to be chosen

The feminine loves to be pursued.
But she does not beg to be picked.

If your confidence only shows up when someone is clapping for you—baby, it’s not confidence.

Start celebrating yourself when it’s quiet.

• Compliment your own growth

• Dress for your own desire

• Choose people who mirror, not validate, your worth

Femininity doesn’t need to be worshipped.
It attracts because it already feels whole.

7. Let your feminine energy exist when life isn’t perfect

Real embodiment shows up when the lighting’s bad. When your skin breaks out. When your plans fall apart.

That’s when you either perform...
Or you stay rooted.

Practice being her when things aren’t aesthetic:

• Rest even when you feel guilty

• Speak kindly even when you’re triggered

• Adorn yourself even when no one’s coming over

You’re not feminine because life is soft.
You’re feminine even when it’s not.

You don’t need to prove you’re feminine. Just stop performing.

Start showing up for the rituals that centre you,
the people that match you,
and the energy that feels like home in your body, not a performance for approval.

Because when it’s real?

You won’t need to show anyone.
They’ll feel it.

🖤

P.S. Inside the Level Up Club, we don’t just talk about femininity, we practice it. If you’re ready for a full breakdown on how to embody it for real (in your mindset, your lifestyle, your relationships, your goals)... join us.

There’s an entire guide inside waiting for you.
Let’s stop performing. Let’s become.